The Mental Load: Why Emotional Labor Is Exhausting—and How to Lighten It

Ever feel like you're the only one who remembers birthdays, plans meals, or keeps the house running? That's the mental load.

Often carried by women, the mental load refers to the invisible labor of managing a household, relationships, and responsibilities.

Signs of Emotional Labor Burnout:

• Constantly feeling overwhelmed

• Resentment toward your partner or family

• No time or energy for yourself

Strategies to Share the Load:

• Talk openly: Share what you do and how it affects you

• Delegate completely: Let others own tasks from start to finish

• Use tools: Shared calendars, apps, or planners

You’re not failing—you’re over-functioning. It’s okay to ask for help.